||[Nov. 16th, 2009|02:00 pm]
How do you make friends?|
I know it will be easier when I have a car, mobility is a great asset. Has anyone tried anything in particular to meet nice, compatible people?
In Hawaii? One of the reasons I couldn't wait to move back was because I wasn't a clubber, street racer or single mom, like most of the people my age out there.
Then again, I was in Hilo, so maybe you'll have better luck. I couldn't meet anyone I considered my type of friend there.
I'm not social enough to actively go out and find new friends, but when I'm forced to be around people at both work and school, I can make some pretty good friends.
Nothing past acquaintance level yet though.
This is the question I've been asking myself ever since I started college.
I don't think I've made a single one, sure there are people I talk to, but I wouldn't consider them "friends".
Good luck :
Getting involved in something local that you're interested in helps, at least you know there's one thing you have in common. But I found a friend online on a forum who at the time lived in Texas and ended up moving near Norman for work. Now we hang out all the time. So you never know. :)
Having an interest in common helps a great deal. Pick something you're good at, or would like to be good at, and find a local group to join or hang with. Your artwork of course comes to mind, but a sports activity works as well. After that it's luck....some groups go out of their way to make newcomers feel welcome, some do not.
Try to engage your neighbours, as well. They're always around; and if you can make them friends as well, all the better. ;)
Honestly, I fail at making friends. Usually they are males that ultimately want to get in my pants (regardless of how sincere and nice they seem at first). If they aren't male, they're virtual... I'm great at making friends online. Car does help though. Good luck !! =)
2009-11-18 07:41 pm (UTC)
I'm incredibly social. I have a tenacity to converse with anyone that has the time to do so back. Because I manage to throw myself in many social gathering places, (e.i. concerts, sporting events, conventions, bars) I make many, many acquaintances.
How do I make friends? Well, I don't go out of my way to make new friends. It just 'happens' on it's own. Mostly by just making some sort of connection with the other person and by them having a similar connection. From there we exchange real contact information and then extend those conversations via email, blogs, texts, IMs or phone calls. Eventually we visit each other and continue to rendezvous in various places and events.
After making their acquaintance and going through what I described above, we eventually form that bond that friends do. It's not something selective or a plan I follow. It just takes some time for myself and the other person to establish the sort of relationship to be considering each other friends.
Forums are probably the most difficult for me to form new friends from mostly because of the geographical distance that often comes with it. However, I must say that some online acquaintances I've made in years before I have met and formed friendships with.
Sorry for the long-winded explanation of how I make friends, lol!
Bah! That was me that posted above that I'm now replying to. >_
Just wanted to send a heads-up that I put your package in the mail Saturday, via Priority Mail. I couldn't find everything I wanted to send, but I hope you like the things I sent anyway!
Thank you Synna, I will keep an eye out for it *hugs*